You Really Need Girlfriends

I have never bought the whole “I don’t do well with other girls.” “Guys make way better friends.” And a whole bunch of other bullshit that paints women as catty. All of my closest friends are women. The only men in my life who are my “friends” are my boyfriend and my father. Women are so important to me and my development. I have learned so much from all of the women in my life and I want that for you too.

First off if you are one of those women who believe it’s “hard” to have women as friends, we gonna break that belief boo. I want you to really dive deep into when you first thought of that belief. What happened that made you think that you couldn’t trust women as friends? Or maybe a difficult relationship with your sister or mother is where it all began? Try to pinpoint that time and write out all your feelings about that situation. Then I want you to write “But it’s not every woman’s fault that this happened.” Because it’s not. Now, this might not be totally solved in one night but knowing where it started and that you don’t have to hold on to this belief should help your open up heart.

Maybe you’re already open to finding girlfriends but you don’t know where to start. Meeting friends in your adult age can seem damn near impossible. It’s not! There are plenty of places to make new friends. I always recommend going to some sort of pole dancing class or any other dance class. It’s really fun and usually you can find another girl there that decided to go alone. Best way to approach someone is to compliment them. Everyone loves a genuine compliment and women always deserve to hear something good about them.

Or you have a strained relationship with your old girlfriends and you’re considering making your way back into their lives. I’ve had my fair share of disagreements with girlfriends. Sometimes that led to us never speaking again. Until we spoke again. Here’s the thing, I’m a BIG believer in time heals ALL things. Time is the ultimate painkiller. We as women have a tendency to hold our friends to higher standards than our own damn boyfriends. Now I’m not saying you gotta be besties with the woman who talked shit about you to everyone and they mama. I’m just saying clearing that old negative energy around friendship can help cultivate a new friendship with someone else (I believe this about romantic partnerships too). As time moves on, forgive and send love to all of your former friends.

Also social media is a GREAT way to meet new friends. Especially people who like what you like and do what you like to do. Browse hashtags and start following other girls and commenting on their photos. Look through my Instagram, there are plenty of amazing women in my comments.

Feminine energy is good for the soul! So go out there and find beautiful awesome women to help build you up and activate the goddess inside you.

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